By Nate Brooks, Harvard MBA
It doesn’t matter whether we are talking about online trading with futures or, whether we are talking about making changes in your thinking and/or in your life…Change Can Happen In An Instant!
The problem for most people…because we, as human beings, crave the feeling of certainty…it takes years for us to get to the point that we will let ourselves actually make the changes that we need to make in order to move yourself forward in one area of life or another. We fear making change…because we don’t know what is on the “other side of change” and we know (we have the feeling of certainty of our current situation) what we have currently…even if it is uncomfortable or real bad…we know that we can handle that pain…even if we don’t like the pain…but, at least we know what that pain is and we fear change because we don’t know what that will bring…people spend years in mediocrity and being afraid to make the changes necessary to help them live an extraordinary life because they know how to tolerate the pain that they are in today.
I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and he asked me, “how does one get to the point where they actually allow themselves to start doing the things they need to do to move themselves forward in trading or in life?”.
Unfortunately, most wait too long…like I said earlier…it takes years for people to get ready to actually make the decision that they are ready to change. Let me make this perfectly clear…you don’t have to wait until you are broke and desperate BEFORE you are mentally ready to learn the skills necessary that can change your financial future. You don’t have to see hundreds or thousands of your coworkers get fired or laid off BEFORE you take action to improve your skills. You don’t have to wait for the world to get further in a recession BEFORE you take action to improve your life. You do not have to live in fear…you don’t have to live with worry…
Change can happen in an instant…and YOU can make that decision in an instant.
What is on the “other side of change” is magical. It is a magical life of simplicity and excitement. The simplicity of just doing what you want with yourself and family and friends and enjoying the excitement that that brings to your life. It is a magical life of change and certainty…change where you can experience multiple opportunities in a variety of areas and certainty where you have the time and money freedom to do them when you want to do them. It is a magical life of relaxation and little stress…relaxation of cleaning the pool, while coming back in your home office area to check on your trading position to see if your runner is now at 8.5 points or 10 points while you have been cleaning the pool. Simply stated, “what is on the ‘other side of change’ is FREEDOM.”
However, there is a misconception out there…that Freedom is Free. Freedom is NOT FREE…there is a price to be paid, and it must be paid in full, in advance BEFORE you can have “true freedom” (or as close to true freedom as you can get).
One of the things that I have realized, as I do my private, one-on-one mentoring sessions with people interested in changing their lives via the learning how to trade their way to financial freedom, is that ANYONE CAN DO IT, but not many will do it. I enjoy working with those, and only those people, that WANT TO DO IT. Honestly, I don’t have the desire to “push anyone across the starting line, nor do I have the desire to drag anyone across the finish line.”
I am writing this article with the hopes of sharing with you how people, like you and I, can come to the mindset that YOU can change in an instant…without taking years to get to that moment. My wish is that you have all that you want in your life and if you don’t yet, that you have a plan to get there. If you don’t have a specific plan yet, keep reading and hopefully, I can touch you in a way that you can do what is necessary for you and your family.
Please feel free to call me at 512-748-4237, after taking some time going through this site’s materials (or get the free ebook at the top right of this site), if you have sincere interest in changing your financial future with the Nate Brooks Trading Mentorship Program. This is my real phone number and I am willing to help you build a financial wall around yourself and your family. Our focus at www.natebrooks.com is to mentor and coach people(novice and professional traders) to achieve success rather quickly with The Nate Brooks System to Trade and Grow Rich with a Harvard MBA. Call me if you have questions…I will answers and then, it is up to you to decide to move forward. I don’t pressure anyone into enrolling in the program because I know that YOU have to be ready…and, only you will know if you are ready.
I am now limiting my private mentoring to just 1 or 2 students per month because I enjoy the intimacy that that affords me with my students and I sincerely recommend that if you are interested in becoming one of those student…go through this site and spend a few hours getting yourself educated. For those students, I recommend that you start at the top right of this website and start reading the information, after reading through the materials that I provide for you on this site, as a service to you, then please feel free to pick up the phone and dial 512-748-4237 to speak to me if you have an interest in private mentoring.
This is the process that is best for you. I cater my trading mentorship program to the people that wants to be champions and they are done listening to the hype and false promises of other trainers…and they can read and understand if they can appreciate my straight-forward approach…those are people who I work with…the rest, will have to find other approaches that they want to pursue. Now, let’s get started with what could be a process that will free you so that you can move forward in your life.
So How do you begin the process of moving forward?
One of the first steps you should take for yourself is to take the three or four areas that mean something to you and ask yourself…what are the top two or three things in each of these areas that are currently limiting your progress in this area?
Let’s assume you choose three or four areas in your life such as mastering your skills as a trader, mastery of control over your emotional mindset, mastery of your ability to work in “day-tight compartments” and mastery of your ability to improve your ability to earn more financial income each year. Your top two or three limiting factors in each of these areas might look like the following:
Mastering Your Skills As A Trader Limiting Factors
1. – Your inability to limit your trading options to just 4 or 5 trade setups.
2. – Your inability to emotionally let go of listening to every different methodology under the sun.
3. – Your inability to get out of a trade when you know the trade is going against you.
Mastery of Control of Your Emotional Mindset Limiting Factors
1. You get angry when you don’t get the results you want to achieve.
2. Blame your current situation of lack of money for not getting the results you want.
3. Blame others for your lack of skill or willingness to do what you said you were going to do.
Mastery of Your Ability To Improve Your Ability to Earn More Money This Year
1. – Blame your funky boss for holding your down or a funky business partner.
2. – You let pride or ego stop you from getting the help or assistance you need.
3. – Not holding up your end of the deal.
Mastery of Your Ability to Work In “Day-Tight” compartments
1. – You allow yourself to get distracted by phone calls or emails or text messages.
2. – You allow someone else’s lack of follow through to mess up your mental focus.
3. – You allow yourself to get off track by television commercial.
When coaching individuals, I found that most people have these type of limiting factors that BLOCK THEIR POTENTIAL. What they have to start doing is “release” these limiting factors from their mindset. When you do figure out how to release these limiting factors, the impact on that area will be extremely powerful.
For example, it is hard to stay focused when you have someone else’s lack of follow through in a project that you are relying on them for, causing you to be angry and frustrated. It affects your productivity and mental focus when you are angry and frustrated. It is extremely hard to be focused on what you have to do…when someone else is messing you up. Unfortunately, in life, we are all subject to this type of situation because it is inevitable that you will be forced to rely on an unreliable person from time to time because you have to deal with people who have low standards or they just don’t know how to properly move forward in their own lives.
You can try to help that person clean their act up…but, unfortunately, they must be ready to clean up their act…in other words, if they want to remain a funky person, you can’t do anything to help them. Sometimes people let their ego or pride stop themselves from moving forward in their lives. Honestly, they don’t mean to mess you up…but, they do mess up you up…IF YOU LET THEM DRAG YOU IN THE GUTTER WITH THEM.
The trick for you, as an individual is to rise above the situation. Believe me when I tell you I understand how hard it is to stay focused when your life is intertwined with someone who is and will drag you in the gutter with them.
I picked this as the first reason to discuss because it is one that ALL of us have to deal with and it is not easy to make the required choices that are necessary…but, if you can deal with this one effectively…the removing the rest of your limitations should be a lot easier. What I mean by that is, that it is…it is a lot easier to not allow yourself to be distracted by emails or text messages…because you can simply close the program or turn off the phone while you are working on what you need to work on… But, it is much more difficult to deal with a funky boss, unreasonable customer or an excuse-ridden business partner because you are wanting and hoping that they produce the things that they said they would produce without continuing to delay the product or mess things up that you have to postpone because they are not coming through.
Remember…the funky boss or your excuse-ridden business partner…are normally not bad people…they just have not figured out how to let pride, or their ego stop them from becoming all that they can become. Consequently, they resort to “little white lies” or “with holds” or “lacking of full disclosure communications” or just out right lying to you when they communicate with you what is happening or not happening. They honestly don’t intentionally try to mess up or sabotage the project…they just don’t understand exactly “how” they are messing everything up and because of their pride or ego…they don’t realize that they are not utilizing the resources at their disposal to help themselves get out of their own problems. What you have to realize is that they are going through something…something that they don’t want to admit to you…(that is the pride and ego getting in the way)…and the sad part is this…they would rather fail…than ask for help. They will never admit this last part…but, their actions are what will cause this last part to happen…if they don’t get their own life together.
The reason I am taking the time to explain their thinking…is because in order for you to “release” your anger or your frustration or whatever is causing you to not be able to focus…you need to understand that the situation is unfortunate…and there is nothing you can do to change it…ONLY THEY CAN CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOR…you can’t..you can hope…you can want…but, ONLY THEY CAN CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOR.
I am not saying that things are not going to messy or stay messy for a period of time…because most likely it will stay messy for a while…until they either just have the guts to either quit…which is most likely what they will do…but, don’t expect them to tell you that they quit…they will just quit…and hide like all funky people do. Or, if you are lucky, they will get it done…perhaps several months late…but, that is just the way these kind of people are…they get wrapped up in their own problems and they don’t consider what their actions or inactions are doing to you. Unfortunately, they don’t see how the little things are messing you up because they have low standards (they don’t know it is low standards) and they don’t know how to truly live up to their word…they don’t understand what high values are and they will destroy your reputation (unintentionally…not on purpose).
Here’s the bottom line of their actions and inactions…it will cause you to start messing up your life…IF YOU LET IT HAPPEN.
Here’s what you have to do…forgive them for being such a jerk because they truly can’t figure out what to do…yes, that is even after you have tried over and over to help them. You need to forgive them…because the anger and frustration will cause you health and mental problems…so the forgiveness is to protect yourself and now position yourself to “let it go”. When you “let it go’, I don’t mean that you don’t hope the project gets done…it will or will not get done…just do the best you can and then, “let it go”…You have to “let it go” because YOU NEED TO START TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE.
Never let a “jerk” destroy your dreams in life…yes, you may have to restart over…yes, you wish it could have and should have been different…BUT…it wasn’t. So, just dust yourself off…and get back to work…WITH A SENSE OF PURPOSE.
Honestly, if you can learn how to “let it go”…even while the funky person is in your life…that is the best of all situations because then…you are truly UNSTOPPABLE. You will learn how to “keep on going” while funky people are in your life for the time that they are in your life… remember, at some point in time…they will quit, that is their nature…you won’t have to ask them…you’ll just stop hearing from them..with no explanation as to what and why they behaved like they did…IF you are lucky, they will turn it around…and, that’s cool too.
Here’s what you do…don’t keep the funky person “alive” with any significance in your mind…when and if they call…keep the conversation on the task at hand…ask task related questions such as when will you complete your portion of the project?, do you have a timetable that you believe you will be done? Or let me know how I can help you? After you are done, make a notation on your calendar and just forget it…the odds are they don’t even remember what they told you in the moment…unfortunately, with these kinds of people, they tell you what you want to hear when they are talking with you and if things happen, it will be done…if things go wrong, they will hide and not communicate with you. But, they will never admit that are not working on the project or if they have already given up.
Now, here’s the tough part…you have to start doing double the work…because you don’t know if they will or will not come through…just understand that is the reality…so just get over it and start working on your project yourself…work on your back up plan…stay focused and positive…but…count on YOU…period. If the person ever comes around, great…if they don’t, you are prepared. When these type of people come into your life and you are forced to work with them…as soon as you spot them…just make your back up plans…because you need to keep your power…within you. The problem of lack of focus on your part is that you gave your power to the funky person. You must take it back once you understand they are a funky person…you must assume they are funky…until they prove they are not. The only proof is completion of whatever they said they were going to do…period. Everything else is just “smoke and mirrors”.
So when you release the limitation…of hoping the funky person will do their part, you take control of your destiny and your life…you are taking back your power to achieve your dreams and goals…so thank them for giving you that opportunity to take control of your life with passion and purpose and “no anger” towards them…they were put in your life to help you MASTER YOUR OWN EMOTIONS…not to complete the project.
When you can learn how to “let it go” of whatever stopping you from staying focused, you take your power back from the situation and put it where it is supposed to be…in your control. You must be operating your life…as if YOU are 100% responsible for making things happen in your life…funky people remind you that YOU must always be responsible for achieving your dreams…success with other people can work…when all the parties are striving for success as a team of champions going for a dream.
So, truthfully, the secret to removing your limitations is to identify what is preventing you from having the big breakthroughs that you need to have to become a champion. Then, you must do what is necessary to get your mind right so you can keep focused and moving forward. The toughest limitation to remove is dealing with funky people because what has to happen is that you must learn some critical skills…the first being is that you must remember that the funky person, most of the time is not a bad person and they have deal with their own problems…that means, you can’t control their actions or their inactions. Therefore, you must truly learn how to forgive the funky person for messing things up as you move forward to reclaim your power. Your ability to forgive is the key component to releasing the emotional charge of having to work extra because of the funky person. It is what it is…just remember…after you forgive, you must “let it go”.
The process of forgiving and “letting it go” is what clears your mind and releases your new inner power and creativity as you move forward to master your emotions and reclaim and release your new power. That is what you need to do to remove the limitations that are preventing you from achieving your dreams.
How to specifically get rid of other types of limitations that can affect your trading ability
Releasing other types of limitations…when you have complete control of being able to release the limitation, is another skill you must also develop if your want to maximize your potential. The simple corrections like turning off your computer, turning off your phone, closing your door, etc. are easy things to do and can be done.
The harder things to release have to do with dealing with other people as we explained in the previous section of this document. The next most difficult things to deal with are the types of things require us to do some personal soul searching and changing.
For example, many traders are constantly searching for the “holy grail” of trading, this means that they never give themselves the mental edge of believing in their trading system. Therefore, removing the limitation of this type of thinking is something under control of the trader.
As I am coaching my students, I am looking for these mental issues and I develop a specific plan for them to implement in their trading. My process of teach each student has the same overall structure…
1. – Setup Charts with proprietary time settings and proprietary indicator settings. My methodology is DIFFERENT than other systems…I have my indicators set so that it is design to be a “group” setting…meaning the same indicator will give me one piece of information on the higher timeframe chart and a completely different meaning on the lower timeframe chart.
2. – Show the Students exactly what to look for on each chart and in what order.
3. – Go over the reasoning why the methodology keeps you on the right side of each transaction and how to combine the pieces of data.
4. – Go over the trade setups…teach them 3 to 5 different trade setups
5. – Go over the market live with them while we are on the phone together
6. – They write up the exact procedures as they understand it so I can understand if they know it…once this is correct. We start the accountability phase of the process.
7. – The student must go into the market and trade in Simulation mode and send me an Email report of exactly the trades taken…they send me their thinking and trades taken…I comment on their reports and this process goes back and forth…until I release the student to go for it or until the student believes they are ready…most of the time this last sentence occurs at the same time…however, if the student believes that they are ready…they must tell me that they are and then, I tell them to go for it…with the following….caveats or things to notice and handle.
Now, within that process I will adjust what and how I teach the student…dependent on the students specific needs…for example, if the student tells me I can only trade the first 45 minutes of the market three days of the week and 2 hours on Wed…I will develop the methodology for that student so that he can capitalize on the key opportunities that occur during the first 45 minutes of the market. Also, if I realize that the person has a propensity to be a “gambler”…then, I have an additional process that I included to get the student over that issue. In short, each mentoring program is tailored to each student. My relationship with each student is unique and private. They share things with me that are truly private and I keep that information between the two of us and use that information to help them master their trading and ultimately their lives. We stop the training when the student stops the training (unless the student is not doing their homework…then we stop the training)…I know this sounds a little strange…but, basically, I will teach you how to make money…you start from day one…learning how to make your own decisions…I teach you how to be independent.
When you are making money and you have mastered the process, the students still send me their results because they want to share their success with me…I love receiving those emails and getting those calls. My goal is to teach you how to be an independent thinker and an independent trader. Ultimately, for me, I want to create a group of people who are financially independent…great traders…independent thinkers and great people who love life. I will never burden my students by having them try to sell me to other people. They provide me with referrals…because they want their friends to experience what it is like to be on a path to achieve financial freedom…and that is the way it should be. All of my referrals are unsolicited referrals and I get them because the student learned exactly what they needed to learn to change their life and they want their friends to experience that.
My life is really fun because I trade every day to make money and I also get to have fun and contribute value to my students (people who are ready to change their life) throughout the month. Life is really magical because I get to help people, who want to change their lives, and I really love to see the “transformation” of doubt to belief in my students (most students doubt that trading will work for them and then, when they get that first positive day…they start believing)…that is one of the most beautiful things that you can witness in real life. It is at that moment that people start believing that they can get their dreams in life. I get to go to the gym and do all the other little things that I can to contribute things to other people’s lives.
I know this seems like it was a digression from the article…however, it really is not. All great people, who want to excel at a profession or trade, hire a coach to help them get to the next level. If you need my help, give me a call at 512-748-4237 and I’ll answer any questions that you have… and that is whether or not you enroll in the mentoring program. If I can help you…I’ll help you…I will be here next week, next month and next year so when you are ready…I will be here.
Now, back to getting rid of limitations that you can control…because you can control your thinking and you can change in an instant. Once you have identified a limitation…that once it is removed…it can cause a big breakthrough in your profession. Figure out a way to trick yourself into releasing it, so you can see how your “new found” freedom accelerates your business or professional goals.
It is the releasing of your limitations…that causes freedom to fill the void. When you are clear on exactly why you are doing what you want to do, it will be easier for you to muster up the courage to get rid of those limiting factors.
The bottom line for you, or anyone for that matter is this…if you want to get different results…you have got to make different decisions…you have to “do the deal”…you have to “do the disciplines”…you have to focus on disciplines of “being and doing” things the right way…you can’t be lazy…you have to pick yourself up off the couch and put yourself back on the court of life…you have to get in the game and start doing something…getting into action…stop being scared…go for possibility in your life…because anything is possible for those who believe and get into action and commit to themselves that they will make New Decisions and Get New Results!
Do you realize that you don’t have to settle for less? Do you realize that NOW is the best time to take advantage of learning the skills needed that can make your financially independent? Have you taken a moment to see the fear in people older than you…you know… the ones who still have to work at Walmart at age 72 or the ones working as waitperson’s at your local restaurants? You don’t have to have any specific trading knowledge right now…we can teach you from scratch… you don’t have to be afraid. Do you realize…that you can do something about your situation…and that’s right now? It takes courage to change your life…but, the first step right now is fairly straight-forward…simply pick up the phone and dial 512-748-4237 and I’ll help you get your questions answered with straight-forward answers that should help you whether or not we work together.
Trading is the best “one person” business in the world. Go to www.natebrooks.com to start learning how to take control of your finances and your life.
- Nate Brooks
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